In a groundbreaking revelation, Barry Diller, the 83-year-old media mogul and husband of renowned designer Diane von Fürstenberg, has publicly come out as gay after 24 years of marriage. This announcement, which was made in an essay titled "The Truth About Us, After All These Years" for the New York Magazine, sheds light on Diller's complex relationship with his sexuality and his enduring love for von Fürstenberg.
Married since 2001, Diller and von Fürstenberg have built a life together that has attracted both admiration and speculation. In his essay, Diller reflects on his past relationships with men, stating, "Although there were many men in my life, there was only one woman, and she came into my life at the age of 33." This revelation comes ahead of the release of his memoir, Who Knew, set to be published on May 20, 2025.
Diller's candidness about his sexuality is significant, considering societal norms and expectations surrounding sexual identity. He notes that while he felt attraction to men from a young age, he never questioned the biological imperative of heterosexuality until he met Diane. Their initial connection was described as indifferent, but it soon blossomed into a passionate romance that Diller describes as "an explosion of passion that lasted for years." He emphasizes that his attraction to men did not contradict his love for Diane, saying, "I can’t explain it to myself or the world. It just happened for both of us, without motive or manipulation. On some cosmic level, we were meant for each other."
Diane von Fürstenberg, now 78, is known for her iconic wrap dress and has established a fashion empire over the decades. The couple has no children together, but Diane has two from her previous marriage to Egon von Fürstenberg. Their relationship has been characterized by a deep bond, which Diller describes as "unique and perfect." He acknowledges that their marriage has often caused confusion and speculation, particularly regarding his sexuality.
Reflecting on his decision to come out, Diller admits, "I had only fear of the reaction of others." He explains that many in his inner circle were aware of his feelings for men, but he chose to keep this aspect of his life private for years, living what he calls a "deceptive" life. Diller's admission comes at a time when societal views on sexual identity are evolving, with many people embracing fluidity in their sexual orientation.
In his essay, Diller also touches on the challenges of navigating public perception. He recalls how their relationship, which began with indifference, surprised both him and Diane as it developed into something profound and natural. "It is truly the miracle of my life," he writes, underscoring the depth of their connection.
Despite the public's curiosity and scrutiny, both Diller and von Fürstenberg have maintained a strong partnership. They frequently appear together at high-profile events, and their philanthropic efforts, including support for urban park projects like the High Line and Little Island in New York, reflect their shared commitment to community and culture.
As Diller's memoir approaches publication, the couple's future remains a topic of interest. Diller's spokesperson has stated that the secret to honoring love and life is to never lie, suggesting an openness to discussing their relationship moving forward. Diane has yet to publicly comment on Diller's coming out, but her support is evident in their long-standing partnership.
The couple's journey illustrates the complexities of love, identity, and societal expectations. Barry Diller's brave step to embrace his truth at the age of 83 serves as a reminder that it is never too late to live authentically. His relationship with Diane von Fürstenberg, characterized by passion and mutual respect, continues to inspire those around them.
As we await the full release of Diller's memoir, one thing is clear: love, in all its forms, remains a powerful force that transcends societal norms and personal fears.
