Tracee Ellis Ross, the acclaimed actress known for her roles in shows like "Black-ish," recently opened up about her experiences with love, dating, and the societal expectations surrounding single women without children. During a candid conversation on the "IMO" podcast hosted by Michelle Obama and Craig Robinson, Ross discussed her unique perspective as a 52-year-old woman navigating the complexities of modern relationships.
In her heartfelt dialogue, Ross described herself as a "unique sort of unicorn of a woman," emphasizing her choiceful approach to life. "I’m one of the first generations of choice…the ability for a woman to find her own delight and pleasure and choice around how she navigates dating," she explained. This sentiment reflects a broader cultural shift, particularly in light of recent societal changes such as the overturn of Roe v. Wade, which Ross believes has impacted dating culture significantly.
Ross candidly acknowledged the grief she feels about not having children or a partner, stating, "As much as grief does surface for me around not having children and not having a partner, I still wouldn’t want the wrong partner. At all, I’m not interested in that." This clear stance against settling for less resonates with many women who feel societal pressure to conform to traditional relationship norms.
Her experiences in dating have led her to prefer younger men, as she finds them to be more open and less steeped in the toxic masculinity that often characterizes men her own age. "A lot of men my age are steeped in a toxic masculinity and have been raised in a culture where there is a particular way that a relationship looks," Ross noted. This perspective has guided her dating choices, as she seeks partners who can contribute positively to her life rather than complicate it.
In her discussion, Ross emphasized the importance of self-awareness and personal growth. "I’m also very embodied. I am a full, very whole person who knows myself, who is in charge of my life and who lives a very full, just robust life," she stated. This self-confidence is crucial for her as she navigates the dating landscape, where she has had to confront and challenge societal expectations. "Some of the ability to reflect on what I really want comes from pushing up against a society that shames me for not having the expected trappings," she added.
Despite the challenges, Ross remains optimistic about her journey. "I do date, and it’s a fascinating adventure out there," she remarked, highlighting her belief that there are good men available for meaningful relationships. She also shared her dating philosophy, which includes meeting prospects in person rather than relying on dating apps, emphasizing the importance of genuine connections.
Ross's reflections on her dating life and the grief associated with her choices have struck a chord with many listeners. She explained, "Even though the grief does emerge, and [when] that comes, and I hold that, I think of what I’ve done. I think I woke up every morning trying to do my best. I didn’t wake up one morning and be like I’m gonna mess this day up. So I must be where I’m supposed to be." This resilience and determination to embrace her life fully, despite societal pressures, is a powerful message for women everywhere.
Moreover, Ross’s insights into toxic masculinity resonate deeply in today’s cultural climate. She is adamant about not participating in relationships where she feels expected to "bend, break, or babysit." Her refusal to settle for anything less than a partnership that enhances her life speaks to a growing movement among women who prioritize their autonomy and happiness over traditional expectations.
As she continues to explore the dating world, Ross remains committed to her values and standards. "I haven’t had great luck lately, but I do have to say I’m moving up on what it is that I’m looking for as a match," she concluded. This statement reflects her ongoing journey of self-discovery and her unwavering commitment to finding a partner who aligns with her vision of a fulfilling relationship.
Tracee Ellis Ross's candid discussions about love, dating, and the challenges of being a single woman in her fifties highlight the importance of self-acceptance and the refusal to conform to societal pressures. Her story serves as an inspiration for many women navigating similar paths, encouraging them to embrace their uniqueness and pursue relationships that truly enhance their lives.
