Selena Gomez and Benny Blanco’s love story is nothing short of extraordinary, marked by years of friendship, music collaboration, and emotional evolution. During their recent appearance on the Jay Shetty Podcast, the couple shared their journey, showcasing how unexpected sparks can ignite the flame of romance between two people who once thought they were nothing more than collaborators.
The unconventional nature of their relationship began 16 years ago when Gomez’s mother, Mandy Teefy, introduced them while they worked on a song together. Blanco recalled the awkward vibes during their first interactions as he believed that Gomez didn’t like him. “I thought she hated me, I really did,” he said, adding, “obviously, 99% of it was in my head.” This interesting dynamic began to shift when they started exchanging “ugly selfies,” displaying a playful side that hinted at a deeper attraction. Gomez recounted, “Maybe I thought it was just going to be flirting and not anything else, but I really started to fall for him.”
Fast forward to March 24, 2025, when both sat down for a candid discussion on Shetty’s podcast to promote their new album, I Said I Love You First, released on March 21. The album garnered extensive attention, even earning accolades from fellow pop icon Taylor Swift, who declared on her Instagram, “I LOVE THIS ALBUM SO MUCH.” This marked a significant evolution in both their careers and their relationship.
Yet, the path to their union wasn't without its hurdles. Benny described moments when he almost sabotaged their potential romantic relationship. While attempting to ingratiate himself with Gomez, he inadvertently offered to set her up with his single friends. “I want her to be in our friend group,” he said, emphasizing his desire to smooth over any awkward feelings, which ironically led to a deeper connection as he revealed. “Maybe me doing that is what disarmed her enough.” This honesty established a foundation for their true feelings to flourish.
Both shared that they had been secretly dating for months before going public about their relationship, which demonstrated their commitment. Reflecting on the intimacy and trust they’ve built, Gomez stated, “When Benny looks at me, I don't think he sees anything but who I am, and that's very rare to find.” This sentiment resonates deeply with their understanding of each other and the transparency they’ve nurtured within their partnership.
Gomez also revealed that before meeting Blanco, she felt an intense need to protect herself, having been single for five years. She expressed how the process of falling for Benny helped soften her walls, stating, “I never have been the first to say ‘I love you’ until I met Benny.” This vulnerability demonstrates her growing comfort and stability within their relationship.
Benny highlighted the importance of foundational principles that guided him to Selena through his past experiences. He mentioned writing a list with his therapist detailing the qualities he wished in a companion: age-appropriate, kind, compassionate. “I believe in karma... if I'm mean to you, it’s going to come back to me ten times over.” This focus on emotional intelligence particularly resonates throughout their journey—turning their individual struggles into collective strengths.
Another significant moment came when they played the game We’re Not Really Strangers, which prompted a heartfelt kiss, solidifying their romantic bond in a fun yet meaningful way. Their interactions reflected a knowing friendship blossoming into a loving partnership that thrives on support, trust, and mutual admiration. Benny stressed that they always communicate openly about their feelings, ensuring no emotional barriers impede their connection, regardless of busy schedules or long-distance challenges.
The couple even admitted that working together and managing their individual careers can sometimes cause friction, but they always prioritize open communication. Gomez shared how trust and transparency have been fundamental in overcoming long-distance obstacles. “The biggest thing in the world is trust,” she stated, underlining how simple check-ins throughout their busy days reaffirm their commitment to one another.
The duo's philosophy on maintaining their relationship showcases a refreshing perspective amid their fame. They recognize that love can thrive even amidst societal pressures, and their interactions openly challenge the stereotypes often associated with celebrity romances. Benny remarked, “It all happens for a reason,” connecting their relationship evolution to a broader narrative of personal growth and reflection.
Ultimately, Gomez and Blanco’s journey is a testament to their resilience and emotional depth. Celebrating the triumphs and navigating challenges, their love story exemplifies an authentic partnership built on mutual respect, kindness, and unwavering support. As Gomez aptly put it, “This is my person, I’m going to marry this person.” Their journey, filled with laughter, respect, and a deep bond, leaves a compelling mark on the landscape of contemporary love stories.
